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This too shall pass
“This too shall pass.” It’s been a rough day. 16 Responses to “ This too shall pass ”Leave a ReplyPosted in Uncategorized by Carter : July 14, 2008 - 10:48pm |
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July 15th, 2008 at 9:27 am
Hi Carter,
I hope you’re feeling better today. You wrote a very sincere and honest apology, thank you. The silver lining in all of this is that I was unaware of your work til now, I’m very glad that has changed. The beads pictured on page 19 of the article are gorgeous, love your use of color in all the pictured beads.
Since I know good can come from bad…I’m very happy to have had the chance to get to know you a bit I look forward to seeing the beauty you have yet to create :).
Lori
July 15th, 2008 at 9:59 am
Hey Carter!! Time to dust yourself off and stop beating yourself up about this. You have certainly taken many steps to correct the situation.
Don’t let it get you down!!
I appreciate all of the heartfelt apologies.
Now go to your studio, melt some glass, and leave these worries behind for a bit.
Hugs~
Fay
July 15th, 2008 at 10:01 am
Carter, I am sorry all of this has happened to you. I understand how words can get twisted in the translation and that was my first thought when I read the article. You seem to have a good heart and it shows. I have a feeling that some good things will come out of this for you. Please keep your head high! I think you have shown your integrity through this whole mess. Best wishes and much success! Jenny
July 15th, 2008 at 10:05 am
Hi Lori, Fay, and Jenny-
Thanks for your words of encouragement. I’m trying to put on my big girl panties today, but it’s hard. I keep trying to move on….and then my eyes fill up with tears. I’m going to try to get some beads made, but even that doesn’t quite have its appeal today.
I just have to keep telling myself that “this too shall pass…”
Many thanks for being kind-
Carter
July 15th, 2008 at 10:56 am
Carter, Thanks for the apology and don’t let this keep you down. I’ve posted a couple of times today to thank you for the apology and let you know I’ve learned something from this also. You are very talented and it is clear from your comments last night and today that you honestly didn’t want to hurt anyone.
Congratulation on the article and I hope to see more of your work highlighted in publications!
Do come back to LE. Many are impressed with the apology and want you to be part of the community. You will meet many of them at the Gathering in August. And they will be happy to meet you!
Someday I hope to meet you or maybe even take a class from you if you decide to teach!
Terry
July 15th, 2008 at 11:02 am
Hey Carter, just wanted to let you know that I for one am very impressed with the way you faced the fire and didn’t run away and hide. You stood your ground, you accepted the comments (which hurt immensely, I’m sure), and you apologized accordingly. But the bottom line is that you showed everyone that you have the grace, integrity and wear-withal to weather this storm in style. Take Finn for a long walk, kind of hard to be sad with a great fur kid for company. Your inspiration will return, I promise.
By the way, even though I’m another one of those middle-aged women, I just chalked it up to a spring chicken that will hit that middle age stage of life, smack yourself in the forehead and say ‘DOH’ and realize that age doesn’t matter in the world of creation. Hope you can look back on this little incident and laugh one day!
July 15th, 2008 at 2:03 pm
Carter;
It stinks that what should be a jubilant few days for you turned so sour…learning experiences stink big time! But you have shown grace, and have earned back respect from a lot of your peers with your apology on LE and here. I’m not terribly older than you are (35) and fondly remember how my passion and my mouth have combined to get me into trouble in my 20’s! You have chosen my favorite mantra as the title for todays blog,and it is so right…this will pass, and you will be stronger and wiser for it! Now go melt some glass!
July 15th, 2008 at 3:22 pm
Sweetie, what you just did took guts and character–I said that last night, but to do this on your own blog is doubly impressive. I’d be proud to call you an acquaintance, let alone a friend
If you have furbabies, go hug them or walk them, and when you come back (please come back!) know that you come back to a hella lot of respect from a lot of us.
Then go melt glass!!!!!!
July 15th, 2008 at 3:47 pm
Oh Carter,
Another old broad here and I feel for you.That got way out of hand.I understood what you were trying to say, although I would bet if given the opportunity, you might not put your thoughts quite that way, but you have every right to your opinions!I too am sorry such an exciting thing has turned into something sad for you.
You handled yourself well,and I believe you to be a nice, sincere talented person.Your apology was heartfelt, and it took guts.
Not only will this pass, it is already half way out the door!
I am sure the silver lining will prove to be pretty bright too. Look at all of us who didn’t know who you were yesterday. I am sure there are more who want to hug you than kick you! Try not to let it get to you too much.
We all step in crap now and then, its all about how you wipe it off that counts!
Hang in there chica!
jo
July 15th, 2008 at 4:17 pm
your an inspiration Carter.
big hugs…
heather
July 15th, 2008 at 5:13 pm
Honey,
First off, you have NOTHING to apologize for. I went back and re-read the article. I’m not a glassworker, but have had the same thing happen with me and my yarn when I first started spinning. When you do something different or feel super passionate about it, people feel threatened and have to lash out. If someone thought your article sounded funny-why not just ask you to clarify rather than start a flame war? Why start an attack, other than it was fun to be mean? It makes EVERY ONE OF THEM look bad, not you.
Since I don’t know what was said. The ONLY thing I could possibly think someone might take offense to is where you explained about annealing. I guess if someone is out there making beads, not annealing them properly either thru lack of knowledge, skill or whatever AND and they are hypersensitive to think you are talking about THEM. But hell, you don’t know EVERY beadmaker in the world and how they do their beads, nor do you care- you were explaining YOUR method. And you know, I’ve bought cheap lampwork glass from China/India/wherever from beadshows and they do break apart!
Negative people will ALWAYS find something to be negative about. I’m convinced if Jesus came down to them in their house, they’d complain he interrupted their favorite tv show or his light bleached their curtains.
You are one of the MOST purely sweet souls I’ve ever met, and I don’t say that lightly. You don’t have an arrogant, bitchy or negative bone in your body-these people have never met you-they don’t know you. You are kind, loving and giving. You are WONDERFUL and have a good life because of your outlook.
It’s easy to be a snarky beeeatch behind keyboard, especially for people who think if they don’t have something no one should. You are an easy target to them because you have youth, beauty, talent, intelligence, grace, etc and you got published. But you also WORKED HARD FOR YEARS honing your skills and you are PASSIONATE about glass. Just because one person gets accolades does NOT mean it takes away from ANYONE ELSE.If everyone would realize that the ONLY competition you have is YOURSELF, everyone’s life would go alot better. ANYONE can do ANYTHING they want-they just have to focus and work. Having success does not take away someone elses success. Frankly-if you can’t appreciate someone else doing good you will never achieve it for yourself.
I know its hard for you, but i promise it will get easier every day. And, much to their chagrin you’ll get MORE attention from them trying to bring you down then if they hadn’t said anything!! I had 5 sales to people who found me on the snarky knitting forum LOL
You are a wonderful person. Don’t ever apologize for being who you are.
{{{{{{{{{{{{Hug}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
Barbe
July 15th, 2008 at 6:57 pm
Carter,
I love your spunk…. I got a copy of Belle Armoire a few weeks back enjoyed your article and started not using presses and having fun just playing with the glass and having fun. I have no idea what was said in the forum. I reread the article and I cant find a thing that you should apologize for. Enjoy your evening.. Pam
July 15th, 2008 at 8:00 pm
amen Barbe!!!!
you ROCK!!
July 15th, 2008 at 8:24 pm
Carter,
I am so very sorry for what you are going through right now. For what it’s worth, I’ve read the article as well as what was posted in the bathroom, and in the thread you started at LE. I don’t feel you have any thing whatsoever to appologize for. It shows an immense amount of maturity and class that you did say sorry for hurting their feelings. That said, you are entitled to your opinions and shouldn’t have to appologize for them.
As my favorite quote says, “Don’t take life too seriously, nobody makes it out alive.” Live, create, be happy, learn from your mistakes, and take cricism with a grain of salt. You can’t make everybody happy all the time, but you decorate this big rock we live on with beautiful pieces of art. That should count for something.
One of these days I aspire to be as creative and sucessful as you are. I’m probably one of those “old bats” that should be all up in arms, but since I’m not pushing 40 so much as pulling 20 (kicking and screaming) I’ll pass on being offended.
D.
July 16th, 2008 at 7:37 am
Carter
OMG! I had no idea this was happening. I’m so sorry. Hang in there! I went through something very similar about an article I wrote several years ago. I had people up in arms about a comment I made in the article that was totally misconstrued. I did post an apology in my blog, but I also stood my ground with emails I received. Some people take life far too seriously. We all need to lighten up a little and allow each other a little breathing room.
The internet does afford people a level of anonimity that breeds contemptuous behavior. It’s disturbing. You can’t, though, take those words to heart. Those people are angry about a host of things that have little to nothing to do with you. They’re just looking for an outlet to vent their misplaced anger. They are the sorts of people who see the glass as having a huge hole in it and who feel that everyone else is stealing their piece of the pie. You however are the sort of a person who sees it as always being filled by the abundance of the universe and knows you can bake a pie at a moment’s notice if you run out of slices.
It’s good to wish them well, be kind and compassionate and explain your position, but it’s also okay to say piss off now and again. I think it’s even possible to do both.
Love
Margot
July 23rd, 2008 at 12:48 pm
I hope you are feeling better, that some of the smoke has blown over revealing that the sky is still there in its spendor.
Chalk it up to experience. Every now and then we get sideswiped by experience, and it is just one of those things.
One thing about all this, notoriety is an effective form of advertising… I’m off to look at your beads…